some lies straight people believe about “coming out”
all queers know that they are queer, despite the work that heterosexism and cissexism do to alienate them from this fact
the only possible reason for a queer person not to come out is that they’re in a queerphobic environment
alienation from the self as produced by heterosexism does not exist
alienation from the self as produced by cissexism does not exist
if you’re queer and not out, there’s something wrong with you
(via tal9000)
Source: mattachinereview
These are the companions to the sexuality cards I created a few weeks ago: GENDER BUSINESS CARDS.
Fuck yeah.
The opposite side to these cards are pronoun based, like the final image. I have pronoun sets of:
- She/Her
- He/Him
- They/Them
- Ze/Hir
- Ey/Em
These pronoun set will be uploaded in a separate post since tumblr only allows for 10 images per photoset.To get the whole “business card experience,” print your two selected cards double-sided. Cut them out, and bam. You’re in business. (I’m so sorry for the pun. It was necessary.)Thank you to everyone in the trans*, genderqueer, and beyond communities for teaching me and helping me on my journey! Your help was greatly appreciated, and these would have never been possible without the people who contacted me and gave me advice and guidance. You guys rock!
(via pochedetigres)
Source: asexual-not-a-sexual
Misandric heterophobic race traitor.: Queer.
Ok here we go. -braces self for 15,000 asks-
The word ‘queer’ is NOT not not not a description of a person’s sexuality or gender. Queerness is NOT a sexual preference or a gender ID that isn’t always considered ‘normal’. It is a reclaimed slur. For instance: I’m pansexual. That is the description…
Why the hell would 15000 people object to this??
(i know about hatred and privilege, but still…isnt this just respect and common sense?)
Musings, writings, and novelizings: Goddamn. Goddamn, goddamn, goddamn, goddamn. I just need to vent. I am...
Goddamn. Goddamn, goddamn, goddamn, goddamn. I just need to vent.
I am surrounded by suffering, much of which is coming from people I know, and I feel guilty for a variety of reasons. Should I? I’m not sure, but I probably should. After all, 60% of things I do are motivated by guilt, and it never…
I am not immersed in as much suffering as I should be, but I largely concur. Privilege is indeed a supreme b!tch…
“should be”??? No no no, wrong, it’s not that you should have more suffering, it’s that others should go through less. the lucky people, the privileged few, need to be allies. That’s really all we can do. We need to listen and support those who are less fortunate. We need to support humanitarian efforts, march with our friends for change, and not hurting people ourselves. It is our job to validate our friends, especially those who have fought terrible battles. We need to acknowledge their pain as real, and fight alongside them against the terrors of this world. Those of us who were just born lucky can afford to donate our time and energy to those less fortunate. While we are free from much of this planet’s pain, we can afford to cultivate joy and spread it to others. Sometimes we won’t be able to identify 100% with our less fortunate friends, but we don’t have to have suffered through the exact same torment to empathize. We need to feel for them, understand as best we can, and most importantly of all we must listen.
How to be an ally (general rules, feel free to add more or disagree with some of them)
- Listen
- try to imagine what the other person has gone through
- empathize
- believe the victim
- understand that it is not the victim’s fault
- read books and watch educational films centering about the struggles of those less fortunate
- Respect Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt
- Watch Laci Green videos
- Intervene when someone is being put down because they are in a minority
- know that tolerating intolerance is not tolerant (What’s that? ”I’m not homophobic but gays deserve to rot in hell”, you say? “I’m not racist but why are black people wearing white people clothes?, you say? fuck you, real people who I’m quoting, that is unacceptable, and no, I will not respect you or your horrible opinions)
- Be aware of world events, and who is being hurt
- Don’t make jokes that diminish or dehumanize people (for example, rape jokes are NEVER ACCEPTABLE)
- Teach others to be allies
- be open (you still have a right to your feelings, and it’s okay to be sad sometimes even if you’re lucky enough not to be a child soldier)
- make sure you know who to donate to
- try not to let the pain of the entire world bring you down (I am guilty of this), or you will not be able to help people
- volunteer
- create art
- believe that things will change for the better if you are there to help
so those are some things I think help. I could be wrong, as I’ve never been there. I’ve never been hurt, so do take what I say with a grain of salt, but i do believe that it is our job to be supportive.It is our responsibility to educate ourselves, and work to give other people better lives. It is our duty to support, and to love, and we are lucky enough to be able to afford that.
- <3
^You are far more correct than I am. And I should have said “surrounded” by suffering. My life has near-totally insulated me from the true knowledge of such suffering (fact: I didn’t know of the existence of the very concept of privilege until around 4 months ago or so). And as you know well enough, it has insulated from much more. This is fortunately no longer the case: I now know of their suffering as an intellectual fact, but not as an emotional truth, something I feel in my soul. In order to know that, I need to see it. This doesn’t mean I can’t do anything, but if I were to truly feel for these peoples’ pain rather than simply shake my head and contemplate the insanities of being human - then I would truly want and fight for change. (Yeah, I don’t particularly like my selective empathy either). But know this - I want to feel. I want to truly know what it’s like for them. Hell, I need to, if their struggles are this serious, rather than get hung up on their opinions on capitalism, precise vision of society or the places where we may disagree. But privilege may or may not prevent me from this somewhat-essential knowledge…and, of course, I am predictably reluctant to have my culture and experience threatened (which is how I feel sometimes about the opinions of some transgenders on the entire human concept of gender).
I can intellectualize about privilege and get hung up on minute disagreements all I want, but that won’t change sh!t. I need to feel for these groups the way I do for homosexuals, the way I do for you and Ariel (if anyone ever attempts to display homophobic reactions/behaviour toward either one of you in my presence, they will rightly deal with your anger and frustration - but they will also, to an appropriate agree, deal with mine. I can guarantee you that). Then I’ll truly want change, and be compelled to fight for it.
I understand your feels. It’s scary and weird that you could be threatened by the concept of no more gender though. I’m glad you’re so clever, or things would be pretty awful just because of the society in which you were raised. I recommend watching Human Trafficking, and other movies like that. I can’t sit through them because they make me want to barf out of my eyes (go me, and currently feeling like I can feel someone committing suicide every 40 seconds right in my heart), but they are true and educational. And it will make you feel. you don’t need to have been there, you just need to empathize and help. it’s all we can do. I also recommend Earthlings, because it will turn you vegan, which is always nice.
The concept of a genderless society is something I’m not so much scared of as uncomfortable with (dammit, there goes my poor wording again :PP :D) - I don’t mind transgender people at all, but a) I’m not sure a genderless society is totally realistic (mainly where the concept would cease to exist in every form - meaning there’d be no FTM or MTF trans as the F and M categories would be absent - A society where there’d be looser gender categories is a great idea :), especially given the rudimentary biological basis and deep social ingraining of the concept, and b) I’m not sure I’d want to live in such a world where no male category existed, as my entire being fits comfortably within it without friction (although that in itself might also be a sign of a sadly narrow concept of existence. Plus a genderless society would have the privilege roles reversed, which might be a reasonable form of justice given the oppressions they suffer). This is why ideas like a modified form of the Native American “Two-Spirit” third gender category are appealing to me (lacking all the cultural connotations it has with them - they deserve respect when we use the term “Two-Spirited”, but I still think the base idea under a different name is worth a lot for the rest of the world): basically a society where M and F still existed, but as looser, fluidic categories with no rigidity or conformity, and a third category that what the people we now call genderqueers would roughly fall into (also fluidic and nonrigid, and with no lesser status or privilege). This fulfills my apparent mental need for relatively neat categories and classifications to fit the world into, while adequately (I believe) allowing for a wider spectrum of human expression. Personally I think it could work, but so far I’ve had no word from other trans people on it. Their first-hand experience would certainly be helpful :)).
So THAT’s clarified, and once again I am so very grateful to have a best friend who understands me. Thankyou for these helpful opinions, everything else, and I love you dearly :)) <3.
Musings, writings, and novelizings: Goddamn. Goddamn, goddamn, goddamn, goddamn. I just need to vent. I am...
Goddamn. Goddamn, goddamn, goddamn, goddamn. I just need to vent.
I am surrounded by suffering, much of which is coming from people I know, and I feel guilty for a variety of reasons. Should I? I’m not sure, but I probably should. After all, 60% of things I do are motivated by guilt, and it never…
I am not immersed in as much suffering as I should be, but I largely concur. Privilege is indeed a supreme b!tch…
“should be”??? No no no, wrong, it’s not that you should have more suffering, it’s that others should go through less. the lucky people, the privileged few, need to be allies. That’s really all we can do. We need to listen and support those who are less fortunate. We need to support humanitarian efforts, march with our friends for change, and not hurting people ourselves. It is our job to validate our friends, especially those who have fought terrible battles. We need to acknowledge their pain as real, and fight alongside them against the terrors of this world. Those of us who were just born lucky can afford to donate our time and energy to those less fortunate. While we are free from much of this planet’s pain, we can afford to cultivate joy and spread it to others. Sometimes we won’t be able to identify 100% with our less fortunate friends, but we don’t have to have suffered through the exact same torment to empathize. We need to feel for them, understand as best we can, and most importantly of all we must listen.
How to be an ally (general rules, feel free to add more or disagree with some of them)
- Listen
- try to imagine what the other person has gone through
- empathize
- believe the victim
- understand that it is not the victim’s fault
- read books and watch educational films centering about the struggles of those less fortunate
- Respect Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt
- Watch Laci Green videos
- Intervene when someone is being put down because they are in a minority
- know that tolerating intolerance is not tolerant (What’s that? ”I’m not homophobic but gays deserve to rot in hell”, you say? “I’m not racist but why are black people wearing white people clothes?, you say? fuck you, real people who I’m quoting, that is unacceptable, and no, I will not respect you or your horrible opinions)
- Be aware of world events, and who is being hurt
- Don’t make jokes that diminish or dehumanize people (for example, rape jokes are NEVER ACCEPTABLE)
- Teach others to be allies
- be open (you still have a right to your feelings, and it’s okay to be sad sometimes even if you’re lucky enough not to be a child soldier)
- make sure you know who to donate to
- try not to let the pain of the entire world bring you down (I am guilty of this), or you will not be able to help people
- volunteer
- create art
- believe that things will change for the better if you are there to help
so those are some things I think help. I could be wrong, as I’ve never been there. I’ve never been hurt, so do take what I say with a grain of salt, but i do believe that it is our job to be supportive.It is our responsibility to educate ourselves, and work to give other people better lives. It is our duty to support, and to love, and we are lucky enough to be able to afford that.
- <3
^You are far more correct than I am. And I should have said “surrounded” by suffering. My life has near-totally insulated me from the true knowledge of such suffering (fact: I didn’t know of the existence of the very concept of privilege until around 4 months ago or so). And as you know well enough, it has insulated from much more. This is fortunately no longer the case: I now know of their suffering as an intellectual fact, but not as an emotional truth, something I feel in my soul. In order to know that, I need to see it. This doesn’t mean I can’t do anything, but if I were to truly feel for these peoples’ pain rather than simply shake my head and contemplate the insanities of being human - then I would truly want and fight for change. (Yeah, I don’t particularly like my selective empathy either). But know this - I want to feel. I want to truly know what it’s like for them. Hell, I need to, if their struggles are this serious, rather than get hung up on their opinions on capitalism, precise vision of society or the places where we may disagree. But privilege may or may not prevent me from this somewhat-essential knowledge…and, of course, I am predictably reluctant to have my culture and experience threatened (which is how I feel sometimes about the opinions of some transgenders on the entire human concept of gender).
I can intellectualize about privilege and get hung up on minute disagreements all I want, but that won’t change sh!t. I need to feel for these groups the way I do for homosexuals, the way I do for you and Ariel (if anyone ever attempts to display homophobic reactions/behaviour toward either one of you in my presence, they will rightly deal with your anger and frustration - but they will also, to an appropriate agree, deal with mine. I can guarantee you that). Then I’ll truly want change, and be compelled to fight for it.
National Organization for Marriage has explicitly racial, hypocritical strategies
And they said the “gay agenda” was after our children….
Okay, I think this is an all-out war now. Not just against oppression, but social control and division. Privilege seems to prevent me from fighting like others would (I think?), but fight I must and fight I will. We all must. For the children, literally.
For great justice…
Can we just take a moment to realize how this child is acting more maturely than half the population of the earth? Kay. That will be all.
^^
Reblog EVERY TIME.
And the religious right talks about shielding children from this to keep them………INNOCENT….
………………INNOCENT…………..
This proves they don’t have the slightest f@#king idea what that word means.
(via thesapphoshow)
FACT: Multiracial gay men have superpowers, like flying and telepathy, to compensate all the privileges that society took from them. The only queer that can beat them are black lesbians on wheelchairs. They are very dangerous.
THIS REASON, above all others, is why there is a black woman hiding inside the soul of every gay man.
Source: factsaboutqueers
